In love, in life and in our careers we sometimes settle for less than we deserve. This is perhaps due to the fact that many of us have looked at the dating market, and based on what we’ve seen, the person we’re currently seeing is “good enough” compared to the rest. 

However, you just can’t seem to shake this awful feeling like there someone better out there, and that you’re just settling for your current relationship. These feelings can manifest into a superiority complex that is sure spell disaster on the road head, usually cheating and verbal abuse.

If you’ve noticed any of the following signs, then it’s time to reconsider your relationship and perhaps move forward:

You have a wandering eye: It’s not like your current partner is any less attractive, however you’re constantly noticing there out more attractive folks out there. You’re also noticing that you’re starting to flirt more, and you feel satisfied by this behavior because it affirms that you can do better.

Your friends agree – Your partner is a great person, but your friends have told you or have hinted that you can do a lot better. Friends will tell you this information by indirectly making fun of your partner’s shortcomings while expressing how awesome you are. Even if it’s not your friends saying that you can do better, its strangers. You may hear them saying something like, “What’s he/she doing with him/her?”

You criticize your partner – Because you think you’re somewhat better than your partner, you expect them to behave to in manner that meets your expectations. You often criticize, when the person you should be criticizing is yourself for fooling yourself into thinking that you could be with someone whom you weren’t all that interested in to begin with.

Love is never about someone being better than the other, and if you think that this is where you’re relationship is heading then run for the exit sign now, or communicate the problems.

When it comes to finding true romance, you should never settle for anything less than you deserve. You have every right to be with someone who deeply appreciates and accepts for all your strengths and weaknesses. However, many of us tend to settle for second best when we don’t have love for ourselves i.e.  we let our insecurities get the best of us and dictate what we think we’re worthy of. Knowing yourself means knowing what you want in a partner, and without respecting yourself, how is anyone else supposed to respect you?

So if you’re currently in a relationship because you’re in a rush to get married, buy a house and have babies, then you seriously need to consider how much you really care for your partner or whether you know deep down inside that this isn’t what you want.

Look out for the following signs:

You crave alone time: Sometimes being with your partner feels like a tedious hair-pulling exercise. Little things irritate you, and all you want to do is be alone or with your friends. If you don’t like spending time with your partner now, then you still won’t like it a couple years down the road.

You want to change your partner: You really believe your partner has to improve a few things like losing weight, quitting smoking, being more outgoing, finding a better job, and so forth. You also believe that you’re the only person that can help them do this. People don’t change that easily, and if you can’t accept them as they are then leave them be.

You make excuses: Listen carefully to what you tell friends and family members about the person you’re dating. If someone points out a particular flaw, you’ll quickly jump to the defensive and rationalize your partner’s shortcomings. You’ll make your partner seem like the victim of a terrible childhood, or the product of particular rough patch. No one is buying this, they only see it as you justifying to yourself why you’re still with this person.

Anyone who has ever watched Dirty Dancing knows that dancing can be very sensual. With club dancing there are a lot of factors. There is the constant flow of alcohol, the heat of the moment, your body temperature is elevated along with your heart rate, and you are grinding on one another.  There is a pretty good chance that you are going to end up making out with your dance partner, and that is why it leads to sex a lot of times. There are plenty of clubs to go to and if you are looking to get laid then dancing is a good way to get to that point.

When you show up to the club you may not be looking to hook up but after   you have a few drinks and start feeling the music then you may change your mind. Men sometimes get an awkward boner when grinding on a girl, and sometimes girls make it happen on purpose. Dancing and rubbing all over is a very sexual experience whether you mean for it to be or not. That much contact and the loss of your inhibitions can cause a perfect storm of hormones and desire.

When you are dancing make sure that it is with a willing partner. Nothing is worse than the guys that grind up on an unsuspecting girl. It’s awkward when you are dancing with your girlfriends and you are suddenly being poked by someone you don’t know. That is not sexy, it’s annoying. If it is your boyfriend or girlfriend or it’s a stranger dancing can always lead to sex. There is a reason it was forbidden in Foot Loose. Well also because those kids died going to go dance, but also because it leads to sex.

The Kama Sutra is a book that s widely known for its intricate sexual positions and giving couples the ability to try out new sensations and ways to connect to one another. To a lot of people it is intimidating and they are afraid to try using it.  Can you use the Kama Sutra? Of course you can, just do it. If you and your partner are in a trusting relationship then it should easy, but even if you just have a hookup buddy then you can still use it. Either way the positions are there to enhance your pleasure.

Experimenting with different positions can be a fun and pleasurable experience. It doesn’t have to be the most complicated one in the book. Just find those that you are comfortable with. Some of the positions are more about making love then carnal pleasure. They may force the couple to make constant eye contact or face one another in different more intimate ways. There are of course the added perks of increased intensity with your orgasms and the ability to go longer. The point is the Kama sutra doesn’t have to be intimidating, it can be a learning experience and a great way to enhance your sex life.

You may have seen the book in a store like Spencer’s and thought that it wasn’t really for you. Some people look at the Kama Sutra as a joke a lot of people give them as gag gifts, but it actually is a great tool for the bedroom. If you can get past the laughing, which is also great for foreplay, then you will actually find that you not only can use the Kama Sutra in your sex life, but you can learn from it and most importantly enjoy yourself.

They say working out is the best way to fight depression. However, sex burns 360 calories per hour. But most people who have been in a relationship over a year are lucky to have sex once a week.  Most of these people say they’re too tired by the time they get the chance, for example those with children, or those who work a job with long hours or two jobs trying to make bills and keep food on the table. Or maybe you have body image issues and the idea of being naked and getting up close and sexual is a lot to deal with for you. Or perhaps you’re just not that horny all the time!

For me, to be in a constant state of arousal I have to have sex on a more than regular basis. Nightly if not more often. So if you relationship is struggling in the sexual department try testing yourself and your honey bunny to see what the cause may be. Not often do we know and less than often do we want to talk about it. Sometimes out right saying, what’s wrong with our sex life is going to insult one or both parties and then sex is going to really drop for a while.

To start with, MAKE time for a five minute quickie every day for a week. Right before bed, in the shower, wherever. In face the more unique the location the more exciting it will be. On top of the washer while doing laundry. On the kitchen counter or bathroom counter. Or in the middle of the living room, drop your pants bend over grab your ankles and hold on while he rails you from behind for a minute. Blow him a kiss and go on about your day.

Breakfast in bed! When you think of breakfast in bed I am sure you think of eggs, waffles, toast, and orange juice brought to you by your significant other just as you are waking up and before you get out of bed.  Thought so, but that is so far from what I am talking about. When me and my boyfriend first got together we used to fuck like jack rabbits. Mind you I do not know exactly how jack rabbits fuck, I am just assuming fast and a lot by the number of babies they have. If we were not sleeping or eating we were fucking.

One morning I woke up early and wanted to make him some real breakfast in bed. I started getting the stuff ready to cook and all of a sudden there he was standing in the living room completely naked. Before I knew it we were back in the bedroom kissing. It was not just any kind of kissing; it was the hands pulling the hair, fumbling over furniture to get to the bed kind of kissing. I was ready to be fucked. So to us breakfast in bed was code for sex first thing in the morning which is actually better than any other kind of breakfast.

We were and still are the type of couple that really did not care about what others thought about us or the things we have done. We were very open with the things that we do but we also knew that some of the people we associate with might not agree with the things we were doing. With that we decided to come up with the code word “Breakfast in bed.” This was our way of respecting those that did not appreciate what we were doing.

There are several benefits of sleeping in the nude. Some people are too shy to sleep in the buff. Even if they just finished making love they will immediately run for the bathroom clothes in hand to redress and become presentable again.  This can actually be a turn off for some partners, but most of all it is really inconvenient. When you sleep in the nude next to your partner you feel close to one another. The best part is that you are ready to go when you wake up or in the middle of the night if the mood hits.

If you really enjoy your flannel pajama sets then you may have to slowly wean yourself from clothing. Start by sleeping in shorts and a t-shirt if you can get used to it. After that you can start sleeping in panties and a tee. Keep going until you are finally comfortable sleeping in the buff. You will feel relaxed and it is actually pretty empowering to sleep in the nude. You might find that you don’t miss clothes that much and if you have nice soft sheets it is even better. Liberate yourself from your clothes for an evening and live like the nudists do!

If you are shy about being nude around your partner, then you may just want to try it alone one night and see how you like it. It is freeing and comfortable but some people are concerned someone might come in and see them. There is nothing to confine you and movement is easy. In the end it is up to you, but if you try sleeping in the nude you may never go back to donning pajamas again.

Every once in a while it is fun to try something different in the bedroom. Maybe your man has been a good boy and never went to a strip club with his buddies.  Or maybe he just got back from a bachelor party at the strip club and you need to remind him of how hot you are for your own reasons. You could reward him by giving him his own little private VIP show, and he gets to sleep with the stripper afterwards which is a huge bonus. So how do you become a stripper?

The thing you have going for you is there are tons of workout programs and workout DVDs that are Stripper Fitness. You can either go to a class at your local health club or you can buy the DVDs and practice at home. There are some fun and easy to learn routines that will get his blood boiling, and a bonus is you can get in better shape while you are learning. Obviously you will need some hot lingerie. If you want to go all out you can get break away panties and garters, but a nice set of matching lingerie will work just fine. Remember it’s about the overall package.

Now it is time to show him your moves. Surprise him one night having him sit down on the bed and get comfortable. Turn on the music and just go for it. Make sure you have sexy clothes over your lingerie so that you can actually strip during your dance. Take off one piece of clothing at a time and make eye contact with him. Throw in some signature moves of your own like a hair toss or a shimmy and have fun with it. You have to have fun or it will be uncomfortable for both of you.

Ladies let’s talk about head! The one thing that every man wants and many women do not want to give! I am right there with you. When I first became sexually active I was that female saying that I will never in my entire life give a man head.  This was when I was sixteen. As I started to get older and become more sexually active my feelings changed some but not much. I started saying that the only way I would give a man head was if he was my husband.

My freshmen year of college I meet my boyfriend who is one of the biggest advocates for head. The first time I gave him head was in the shower. This was the first time that a dick was in my mouth let alone giving someone head. It had been a really long time since he had received head and his legs started to shake from enjoyment. This made me feel like I was doing something great. Later on in our relationship I find out that I was not as good as I thought I was. Being the good girlfriend that I am from time to time I still try to please him this way but it is difficult for me.

This might sound really selfish of me but the reason I do not like giving head is because I do not get a damn thing out of it. I am not getting pleased. All I am getting is a wet hand and a sore jaw. A girl has needs too and if he busts his nut from me sucking his dick all he is going to do is roll over and go to sleep. This leaves me with nothing in return. So why would I be willing to do something that does not benefit me.

If you ever want to participate in a different kind of contest there is the Air Sex World Championships in Austin, Texas.

It takes place in the

Alamo Draft house and consists of people simulating sexual acts on stage. While some find this disturbing others find it stimulating and get serious about winning.

There are several different contestants both men and women. They get really creative when they put on a show. One lady was dressed in a wedding dress and metal underwear. Sparks flew when she held a grinder to her panties and let the fire go. There are all sorts of ways people interpret the way they are supposed to perform. They range from strange bedroom antics to single performances involving props.