When browsing profiles on online dating sites or scanning the crowd at the bar for potentially appealing people, we are using our own sense of judgment based on our particular standards and preferences.
Some people are very superficial and cannot fathom the thought of dating someone who might be slightly overweight, while others exclusively search for partners on the voluptuous side. It’s all personal choice, but the truth is you is (and we know you’ve heard this time and time again) you can’t someone based on their appearance as there is always more than meets the eye. Even if we’ve met someone briefly, we still don’t them really well. So before you judge, take some time to consider the following:
Do you know all the facts?
Impressions last – we get that. But before you hastily move onto the next person, ask yourself: Have a given this person a fair shot? Do I know them well? Do I know their background, their interests, their likes, their hopes? Often the more we get to know someone, the more we start to fall for them. Consider that.
Why are you putting them down?
When we’re putting other people down or quickly judging them, we’re saying a lot about who we are as individuals. If putting other people down and judging them makes you feel better about yourself then it might time to consider your insecurities and why you aren’t open to meeting new people. It could be the reason that you’re still single.
How would you like to be treated?
Treat other people the way you would like to be treated. It’s really not nice being judged, yet we so often do it to other people without thinking. So when you find yourself being judgmental, ask yourself how you would feel if you were the one on the receiving end? You wouldn’t be happy, and you’d want people to be more understanding, so offer the same to others.